Maria Gall
I know this may sound rather odd, but I try to plan financially everything I do a year in advance in hopes to avoid any surprises in my checkbook. Anyways, what should I buy or make for people next year for their birthdays? I preferably want to give them a homemade gift (what are some creative ideas for homemade birthday gifts?), but if that's tasteless I'm open to almost anything.
My best friend will turn 44 years old
My brother, his girlfriend, and a friend will turn 19
Important friends will turn 21, 23, and 24
My boyfriend will turn 27
A dear male friend who's in prison will turn 23 yrs. old
A brother will turn 50 and a sister will turn 40.
My important nieces and nephews between 2-15
Daddy will turn 75 (my mom is deceased)
My other siblings and friends will receive birthday cards.
Thank you in advance as I greatly appreciate your input and advice.
Answer
Wow, organization like that is amazing (if a little scary). Only you know your friends, and your talents (some people should never bake anything for anyone), so suggestions really might not be so good.
For those that like them, how about candles? They are easy to make, all you need is some wax (even from old candles), crayons for color, string (dipped in the hot wax, curled around a pencil on one end, weighted with a coin for the bottom of the candle), scent (or unscented - some people like candles but gag @ the smell), maybe one of their favorites (can get samples sometimes, but oils work best), and a quart or half gallon waxed paper juice or milk carton. This also should prob be done in one of those disposable foil pans.
Melt the wax, adding the crayons, scent (or not). Stir. Cut off the top of the carton where it starts to fold, so that you have just the square. Rest the pencil with the string (wick) on top (the weighted end should be at the bottom of the carton. Pour a little wax in to fix the wick in place in the center of the carton. Give it a little time to solidify (about 20 min-1/2 hr. Stick the whole thing in the fridge or freezer if you want to move it along more quickly).
Get some ice cubes from the tray and fill the carton with them. Stir the wax again (the wax should be hot enough to pour). Then pour it into the carton over the ice cubes. Let it cool & set (give it a couple hrs minumum, overnight is best, or do the fridge thing. You don't want to stick this in the freezer or the water in the carton will re-ice). Peel away the carton.
The ice will have created pockets in the candle and it looks pretty cool, certainly not like a factory candle.
For your friend in prison, baked goods sound like the way to go, perhaps lots of cookies he can share. Or a cd?
Ok, I'm off to finish my Christmas shopping for this year, half of which is still undone!
Wow, organization like that is amazing (if a little scary). Only you know your friends, and your talents (some people should never bake anything for anyone), so suggestions really might not be so good.
For those that like them, how about candles? They are easy to make, all you need is some wax (even from old candles), crayons for color, string (dipped in the hot wax, curled around a pencil on one end, weighted with a coin for the bottom of the candle), scent (or unscented - some people like candles but gag @ the smell), maybe one of their favorites (can get samples sometimes, but oils work best), and a quart or half gallon waxed paper juice or milk carton. This also should prob be done in one of those disposable foil pans.
Melt the wax, adding the crayons, scent (or not). Stir. Cut off the top of the carton where it starts to fold, so that you have just the square. Rest the pencil with the string (wick) on top (the weighted end should be at the bottom of the carton. Pour a little wax in to fix the wick in place in the center of the carton. Give it a little time to solidify (about 20 min-1/2 hr. Stick the whole thing in the fridge or freezer if you want to move it along more quickly).
Get some ice cubes from the tray and fill the carton with them. Stir the wax again (the wax should be hot enough to pour). Then pour it into the carton over the ice cubes. Let it cool & set (give it a couple hrs minumum, overnight is best, or do the fridge thing. You don't want to stick this in the freezer or the water in the carton will re-ice). Peel away the carton.
The ice will have created pockets in the candle and it looks pretty cool, certainly not like a factory candle.
For your friend in prison, baked goods sound like the way to go, perhaps lots of cookies he can share. Or a cd?
Ok, I'm off to finish my Christmas shopping for this year, half of which is still undone!
What to get 14 year old boyfriend for his birthday?
K8E
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half and a lot more serious than we were when I asked for advice about this last year. Things are great but I'm still having the same issue, I don't know what to buy him! So I need ideas! It is going to be his 14th birthday so nothing childish. Last year I waited until too late and had to just get him an Xbox live points card, so this year I am starting to look earlier so I can save more money and maybe can order. I get $40 a month so I can use some of that towards his gift. He likes his Xbox, V-necks, purple, skull candy, football, the Arkansas Razorbacks, me, and his family.
P.S. His birthday is in November so no rush!
-Thanks(:
Answer
It's not about the gift. It's about what the gift reminds him of every time he uses it. It should be something that will last, something he'll get practical use out of on a frequent basis, and each time he does, he'll think about the special girl who gave it to him.
So don't just give him a birthday present, give him a really great time, and give him the present at the very end to wrap things up. The item itself doesn't really matter. Pick something he'll like and use often, but don't worry so much about it being perfect.
Guys have four primary needs, and you're going to meet all four of them prior to giving him the gift, in a marathon session of showing him you're a good provider. The more time you can spend with him alone, meeting his needs before the gift presentation, the better.
The four needs every male has are food, sex, ego, and rest.
The very first thing guys learn, as babies from their mothers, is that food and love are correlated. Show your boyfriend your love by making him something great to eat. Since you're 14, this probably won't be a full fancy dinner, but bake him a small cake, or cupcakes. Make it yourself from scratch, ideally with the flavor(s) he likes best. Don't get store-bought, that won't show him you're a good provider, just a good gatherer. It should be baked with love and care, and put little hearts or something on the frosting, or maybe write "I love you".
Next, you need to give him sex. At your age, especially if you haven't had sex before yet, this does not need to be intercourse. Sex can be anything of a close and intimate nature, that satisfies his desire for physical contact with your body. This might mean a hug, or cuddle-time. This might mean kissing him. This might mean holding his hand as you walk. This might mean a slow-dance. Whatever you two have done together, physically, you should give him. If you do want to take another step, like say you've kissed, but never really used tongue, maybe this is a good opportunity to take that next step. It's up to you and what you're comfortable with, but just being close to him is a great gift in itself.
Third is ego. You may think your boyfriend has a big ego already, but secretly what he fears more than anything is that you'll decide he's inadequate. You need to show him, and tell him, that you think the world of him. Let him know how special he is, how only he can meet your needs, and you love him for it. Use your words, and your body language while you tell him. Let him know you don't think about or look at any other guys, and all you care about is him because no other guy comes close to how great he is.
Fourth is rest. This isn't just physical rest, but mental rest. A guy, when he likes you, will really focus and pay attention to you, trying to learn all he can about what you need from him, so he can provide it. A guy will chase you, in this way, doing nice things for you, trying to meet your needs, romancing you as much as possible. It's exhausting, though, and he can't give up the chase as long as you keep running. It's okay to make him chase you a little bit once you're in a relationship together. You need him to romance you just as much as he needs all of the above. But you do need to let him catch you, and let him know he's caught you. Let your boyfriend know that he's won you over, and he can take it easy every now and again. He can go and have fun with his friends, leaving you behind, and you'll wait patiently for his return without running off. As much as you enjoy his company, and need him, you're willing to wait to get it, because his need to rest is important too, and he should see to his own needs as much as he sees to yours. The more rested he is, the more energy he can give to satisfy you when you are together, after all.
So, give him all that, either over several days or one, and give him his birthday present only at the end, as a symbol of the preceding satisfaction of his needs from you. No matter what the item ends up being, it will be the greatest birthday he's ever had, because he has an amazing girl who meets all his needs in life.
It's not about the gift. It's about what the gift reminds him of every time he uses it. It should be something that will last, something he'll get practical use out of on a frequent basis, and each time he does, he'll think about the special girl who gave it to him.
So don't just give him a birthday present, give him a really great time, and give him the present at the very end to wrap things up. The item itself doesn't really matter. Pick something he'll like and use often, but don't worry so much about it being perfect.
Guys have four primary needs, and you're going to meet all four of them prior to giving him the gift, in a marathon session of showing him you're a good provider. The more time you can spend with him alone, meeting his needs before the gift presentation, the better.
The four needs every male has are food, sex, ego, and rest.
The very first thing guys learn, as babies from their mothers, is that food and love are correlated. Show your boyfriend your love by making him something great to eat. Since you're 14, this probably won't be a full fancy dinner, but bake him a small cake, or cupcakes. Make it yourself from scratch, ideally with the flavor(s) he likes best. Don't get store-bought, that won't show him you're a good provider, just a good gatherer. It should be baked with love and care, and put little hearts or something on the frosting, or maybe write "I love you".
Next, you need to give him sex. At your age, especially if you haven't had sex before yet, this does not need to be intercourse. Sex can be anything of a close and intimate nature, that satisfies his desire for physical contact with your body. This might mean a hug, or cuddle-time. This might mean kissing him. This might mean holding his hand as you walk. This might mean a slow-dance. Whatever you two have done together, physically, you should give him. If you do want to take another step, like say you've kissed, but never really used tongue, maybe this is a good opportunity to take that next step. It's up to you and what you're comfortable with, but just being close to him is a great gift in itself.
Third is ego. You may think your boyfriend has a big ego already, but secretly what he fears more than anything is that you'll decide he's inadequate. You need to show him, and tell him, that you think the world of him. Let him know how special he is, how only he can meet your needs, and you love him for it. Use your words, and your body language while you tell him. Let him know you don't think about or look at any other guys, and all you care about is him because no other guy comes close to how great he is.
Fourth is rest. This isn't just physical rest, but mental rest. A guy, when he likes you, will really focus and pay attention to you, trying to learn all he can about what you need from him, so he can provide it. A guy will chase you, in this way, doing nice things for you, trying to meet your needs, romancing you as much as possible. It's exhausting, though, and he can't give up the chase as long as you keep running. It's okay to make him chase you a little bit once you're in a relationship together. You need him to romance you just as much as he needs all of the above. But you do need to let him catch you, and let him know he's caught you. Let your boyfriend know that he's won you over, and he can take it easy every now and again. He can go and have fun with his friends, leaving you behind, and you'll wait patiently for his return without running off. As much as you enjoy his company, and need him, you're willing to wait to get it, because his need to rest is important too, and he should see to his own needs as much as he sees to yours. The more rested he is, the more energy he can give to satisfy you when you are together, after all.
So, give him all that, either over several days or one, and give him his birthday present only at the end, as a symbol of the preceding satisfaction of his needs from you. No matter what the item ends up being, it will be the greatest birthday he's ever had, because he has an amazing girl who meets all his needs in life.
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